Today is our Wedding Anniversary! Time just flew by since we met at a camp in high school, got married after college, raised a family, got our three kids married and on their own, and now we still have each other.
Today we reflected on 3 secrets below.
Bottom Line: “Stay committed to the things that matter most.”
Note: This is the first time I’ve introduced you to my husband, David G. Ramsland so I hope you enjoy our 3 Secrets which are true in Life and Business.
3 Secrets for a Long Marriage
#1 Have the Same Values
We both came from Midwest families with traditional family values and parents with long marriages. We believed in raising a family, being in church together and doing our best in whatever we did.
One thing David insisted on where we first got married that I thought was so funny (and regularly annoying) was “No important conversations happen after 10:00 pm.” But that was when we finally settled down and I was ready to start talking! After all these years I found that was wise advice. Things look much better in the morning and most things are resolved easier then.
#2 Find Your Own Fulfillment in Life
At 21 years old in our first year of marriage, I didn’t think marriage was as happy as I expected. David worked long hours building the first cell phones and I was on my own. When asked in a group to think of the most needy person you knew, I couldn’t think of anyone until I realized it was me! That’s when I realized I was responsible for my own happiness and finally grew up! Things looked better when I took personal responsibility and stopped expecting David to make me happy. When I filled my own needs we had a much better marriage and I began to think he was a great husband.:)
We had three children and that’s when I discovered my knack for organizing clients and speaking. I loved it and spent my little amount of free time as a Mom creating organizing classes, overheads, and handouts. I loved it! As we moved for David’s work from Illinois to New York to Dallas to San Diego, I became as I say “A national speaker at corporate expense.” I organized and spoke wherever we lived.
#3 – Make Sacrifices to Be Together
When we moved from New York to California I watched all my Speaker friends doing fabulous weekend Speaking Retreats. But I knew since my husband worked corporate hours Monday- Friday that my being away on the weekends would put a strain on our marriage and family. So I spoke during the week (up to 50 seminars a year) and became an author and internet marketer. It paid off in that I have 8,000 newsletter followers, a long marriage, and kids that don’t think I work! (Oh, well. Kids are hard to impress anyway.)
To this day when David travels internationally for business and he’s a “Two Million Miler” in American Airlines, I tell him it’s fine to travel for work… “As long as you are home Saturday mornings.” The principle works for giving us downtime together and keeps us connected. Now I don’t mind that he travels since Saturday is coming. I always have a Saturday morning home project to do together so that works.
In Conclusion … with Facebook Photos
That’s a brief run down on what we are celebrating today â€¦ 42 years of marriage. And if you’d like to see my “Bill Gates look-a-like” wonderful husband, go over to my Face Book page and see “Then and Now” photos.
Happy Anniversary, David! May we be blessed to live to be the 4th generation married over 50 years in our family line. You’re easy to live with and I hope my audience knows I am who I am because of you and your support!
P.S. David’s patents in the early days of the Cell Phone industry when we married kept him working with corporations like Motorola, Harris RF in New York, and Qualcomm in San Diego. I’m proud of his patents and look around at everyone using a cell phone and say, “David I’m so proud of the part you had in launching this industry!” He doesn’t think he did much but I know his persistent work ethic over four decades made a difference. Think of David when you use your cell phone and know he had a part in what we enjoy today.
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